A Complex Family Reunion

Janice Konstantinidis
2 min readOct 30, 2023

Part Three

A Day of Disintegration

Later that Saturday, the disquieting weight of my mother’s absence solidified into a more grim and tangible reality. My mother’s partner had made it abundantly clear earlier: neither of them had space for me in their lives. A decade of yearning collapsed in that instant, a skyline of dreams imploded, leaving me in the debris of unspoken words and lost possibilities.

By afternoon, I secluded myself in my room. Emotion had stalled somewhere between the contours of sadness and the blank slate of apathy. I wasn’t anticipating tears or fits of rage; I was hovering in a state of emotional limbo. The following evening, I was to return to Hobart with my Aunt Betty. Within the span of 48 hours, the structure of my world had crumbled, though into what shape or form I could not fathom.

As the evening drew near, Aunt Betty, keeper of the family’s unsaid truths, informed me that we were going to the movies — with my mother. A peculiar twist in the day’s unfolding narrative. Some of me resisted; shame had fashioned its own armor around me. But choices, as they often do in such circumstances, remained elusive. We had a cursory dinner of fish and chips, procured with no conversation to accompany it.

We walked to the West Heidelberg Village Movie theaters. My mother was already there. In that moment, words fell short, barricaded by the day’s earlier exchanges. The film that played on the screen before us left no imprint on my memory, another casualty in a day marked by absence and disconnect.

The night was ink-black when we retraced our steps to my grandmother’s home. An unexpected gesture — my mother took my hand and slipped her watch onto my wrist. It was an effort, perhaps, to distill some sense of permanence into the transient hours we’d spent together. I wish I could capture what it was that coursed through me, but the well of my emotions had run dry.

Back at the house, we settled into the familiarity of a cup of tea, that age-old remedy for both the mundane and the extraordinary.

As my mother left, she offered a promise: she’d see me the next day. That night, all three of us had donned our best attire for the movies, as if the sheer act of dressing up could lend gravity to the frailty of the situation. Perhaps it was the best we could manage — a veneer of civility to mask the unspoken, the irreparable.

And so, that Saturday lingers in my memory not as a day of reckoning but as the crystallization of a distance that had always existed. In its quiet despair, it became an archive of missed connections, of dreams deferred, of silences too deep to traverse. It was the day my mother and I ceased to entertain the myth of us, and perhaps that was the harshest truth of all.

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Janice Konstantinidis

I am a lover of fine cheese, my dogs, my garden, knitting, photography, writing and more!